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Reproducible Example

import pandas as pd
df1 = pd.DataFrame({'a': [1,2,3]})
df2 = pd.DataFrame({'a': [2,3,3]})
df1.merge(df2, on='a', validate='one_to_1')

"ValueError: Not a valid argument for validate"

Issue Description

Unclear error message. The error message with a list of the valid arguments would be useful.

Expected Behavior

"ValueError: "one_to_1" is not a valid argument. Valid arguments are: - "1:1" - "1:m" - "m:1" - "m:m" - "one_to_one" - "one_to_many" - "many_to_one" - "many_to_many""

I will create a pull request to change the error message if that's fine.

Installed Versions

INSTALLED VERSIONS ------------------ commit : 3872572512b4ea5af50618203331d9c7cc5d5fd8 python : 3.8.13.final.0 python-bits : 64 OS : Linux OS-release : 5.10.16.3-microsoft-standard-WSL2 Version : #1 SMP Fri Apr 2 22:23:49 UTC 2021 machine : x86_64 processor : x86_64 byteorder : little LC_ALL : None LANG : C.UTF-8 LOCALE : en_US.UTF-8 pandas : 2.0.0.dev0+499.g3872572512.dirty numpy : 1.23.4 pytz : 2022.5 dateutil : 2.8.2 setuptools : 65.5.0 pip : 22.3 Cython : 0.29.32 pytest : 7.2.0 hypothesis : 6.56.4 sphinx : 4.5.0 blosc : None feather : None xlsxwriter : 3.0.3 lxml.etree : 4.9.1 html5lib : 1.1 pymysql : 1.0.2 psycopg2 : 2.9.3 jinja2 : 3.0.3 IPython : 8.6.0 pandas_datareader: 0.10.0 bs4 : 4.11.1 bottleneck : 1.3.5 brotli : fastparquet : 0.8.3 fsspec : 2021.11.0 gcsfs : 2021.11.0 matplotlib : 3.6.1 numba : 0.56.3 numexpr : 2.8.3 odfpy : None openpyxl : 3.0.10 pandas_gbq : 0.17.9 pyarrow : 9.0.0 pyreadstat : 1.2.0 pyxlsb : 1.0.10 s3fs : 2021.11.0 scipy : 1.9.3 snappy : sqlalchemy : 1.4.42 tables : 3.7.0 tabulate : 0.9.0 xarray : 2022.10.0 xlrd : 2.0.1 zstandard : 0.18.0 tzdata : None